Suddenly Mama

Mommie Dearest (Medium)So there we were.. newlyweds at their 1st year. Having a ball. Traveling plans lies ahead in our heads, thinking of places to go and those things-to-do-before-you-hit-30-sort-of-things has been nicely crafted on our nifty minds. Yeah, of course those plans exist, until one day…

The day when Armin Van Bureen’s arse shakes Jakarta
the day I strangely threw up my whole takes of Long Island Iced Tea throughout the night.
The day when I’ve became sober enough to finally realize my monthly period has been unreasonably late
The day when my girlfriends urged me to buy a test pack and pee on it
The morning that I pee on wot-so-called-HcG Kit
The morning I saw a “ + “ sign on it.

The morning I rushed to a sleeping husband, sobbing. Performing a scene from a soap opera, illustrating a teenage girl knocked up by her boyfriend, asking for the best solution
The morning I have to go to work, emotionally unstable, whether to keep the baby or not…

From the moment we decide to tie the knots, having a baby is the last thing on our mind. (Well, at least mine). It was surely a horror episode when I found out that I’m pregnant. But, surely not to keep a baby is not an option. The thought just came amidst the wave of surprises.

Surely it was just a phase where certain confuse daughter just needs calming words from her mother, saying, “Well? How long are you planning to be childless?” DANG.

That questions from my mother works like a calm sea after a perfect storm. I suddenly stop crying and sobbing. My weeping morning cheered by dear friends who suddenly decided to have lunch with me, celebrating this unexpected pregnancy. (I love you friends).

42 weeks, riding on-emotional-roller-coaster, hop in and out a merry-go-round, nurturing a baby was indeed a more than words experience to me. How could I, a person who’s into hedonistic lifestyle, be such a fussy-over-protective-mother?
How could I? A person who thinks toddlers screaming at the malls are monster, but laugh whole heartedly when Ollie jumps at her Dad’s round tummy.

Unexpected as it is, I suddenly became a mom who gets parenting tips from Google, and couple of Mailing Lists, not to mentions seminars and classes. A mom who breaks all Grand Ma’s rules and silly myths. A mom who shabbily dress her baby without a “kaos dalem”. A mom who threw out all Baby Talc Powder and Lotions. mom who cries when her baby have to take a formula-milk when we ran out of breast-milk supply. A mom who boastfully tells everybody that she goes R.U.D. (Rational Use of Drugs). A mom who proudly campaign breast-milk is the best liquid in the world. :D Lastly, a Mom who sticks to homemade meals even when her toddler is showing a picky-eater trend.

With a kid in your life, packed with all the hustles and bustles, things can be an absolute topsy-turvy, but it sure does made a complete human being out of you.

And this whole unexpected motherhood leads to an unexpected parenting, has been such a pleasantly bumpy ride which I’m still riding with my husband and of course, our pretty little daughter, singing “the wheel on a bus goes round and round… round and round.. round and round… “

I have no regrets. Ollie is a blessing in disguise for me. With a smart witty little girl by my side, I couldn’t ask for more.

Sent by: Yenny aka Cicik , a mother of Ollie.

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  1. wow yen! terharu bacanya nih, secara masi nge fans ama armien,nga tau kapan siapnya jadi mommy one day ;p
    as i can says times really flies yah,, enjoy the parenting hood and send hugs to ollie :)

  2. @vonne: armin fans too? next gig ketemu kita? kqkqkq.. teteeeub yah.
    @hanzky: thank you yah :) i will try my best :)
    @Affi: Your welcome affi. Ollie is 15 months now.
    @MrsRance : iya, masih ada ortu2 yg nunut kebiasaan jaman dulu, anaknya dari baby sampe gede dipakein kaos dalem. atuh kan jakarta panaaaaas yah?.. *sigh* :D
    @Kirana : are we Lazy, or are we too stingy to buy a dozen of kaos dalem yah? LOL *just kidding*

    Salam Kenal Mommies! :D

  3. Wow, your story’s more or less, the same as mine. Makanya, gue sampe terharu (and even I cried a bit reading this :-p) coz I know how you felt back then. And I also know how you feel now for wanting all the best for your baby.

    Gue dulu jg sebenernya pengen hamil yang ntar-ntaran, supaya bisa travelling dan clubbing sm laki gue. Eh, koq ya sebulan setelah merit, gue malah langsung hamdan. Ya sutralah, di-cancel semua rencana2 berhedon ria itu. Bahkan, gue jadi berusaha keras buat jadi emak yg baik. Dari yg gak bisa masak, malah jadi hobi masak dan bikin kue karena, gue cuma mau Nadira makan homemade food. Dan nanti pas dia ultah ke-1 (next January), gue pengen dia niup lilin di atas kue ultah bikinan gue sendiri. Makanya, temen2 gue sampe yang pada bilang “Wah, lo berubah banget, Ra! Gue gak pernah nyangka kalo lo punya sifat keibuan juga di dalam hatilo.”

    Jawaban gue cuma satu, “Gak cuma lo. Gue sendiri aja masih heran!” :-D

    Great writing. Salam kenal Yenny! (btw, sesama anggota milis mpasirumahan toh? :-p)

  4. I think it’s great to know that there are other moms out there that not perfect all the time. To know that maybe at the beginning you feel down but after having a baby it all changes.

    Ollie lucu banget ya :)

  5. oupps! i have comments! appreciate it mommies!
    @irasistible : Ira! i like your ID! salam mpasirumahan! :) :p
    @Santy: even now, Ollie masuk TTots, ga pake kaos dalam. kqkkqq.
    @DesZeLL: Yes, it all changes yah. Thanks DesZell!
    @nopai: kiskis for Lil’ Miss Maika too :) hmm.. about my midnite-cooking yah.. ahhah lucu juga. thanks for the idea ‘Pai.

  6. Salam kenal, Yenny. Selama ini sering liat emailnya di milis dengan nama “Cicik”.
    Sama banget. Mikirnya setelah menikah pengen ‘pacaran’ aja dulu, eh nikah akhir Desember 2007, awal February 2008 ternyata gw hamil.

    Sempet gak siap juga, secara banyak banget obsesi gw yang belon tercapai. Dan ternyata gw keguguran bulan Maret 2009. Sumpah, saat itulah gw menangis, baru menyadari I wanted this baby! Baru merasa kehilangan banget.

    Saat ketahuan hamil lagi bulan 2009, gw jaga banget kehamilan ini dan juga dapet tips parenting dari milis, blog mommies. Dulu ngeliat boss gw ngelarang anaknya maem ini, itu kok gw mikirnya ” halah…over-protective banget sih! Gw juga dulu kecil2nya makan gituan juga tumbuh normal.”

    Sekarang gw kualat! Kemakan omongan gw sendiri! Karena gw pun udah tertular jadi mommy yang protektive ke baby boy kami.

  7. waw, terharu baca tulisannya. yes, a baby could change the world. Kbayang ga sih kalo dulu nyokap juga udah sacrifice anything & giving her best trus qta suka semena2 marah2 ngelawan. I love my mom more and more after I carry the one who will call me mom.

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