by Hanzky — Wednesday, November 17th, 2010 at 9:15 am
in Books / Movies / TVshow / Music / Web, Mommy Chatter and tagged with Have a Little Faith, Listening Skill, Mitch Albom
I found this on the recent book I read, Have a Little Faith by Mitch Albom (P.59) and thought I’d share it with you here.
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A little girl came home from school with a drawing she’d made in class. She danced into the kitchen, where her mother was preparing dinner.
“Mom, guess what?”, she squealed, waving the drawing.
Her mother never looked up.
“What?”, She said, tending to the pots.
“Guess what?” The child repeated, waving the drawing.
“What?” the mother said, tending to the plates.
“Mom, you’re not listening”
“Sweetie, yes I am”
“Mom”, the child said. “You’re not listening with your eyes”.
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Don’t we hate it when we talk to someone and his/her eyes are not looking at us? We hate it because makes us feel ignored and less valuable.
Sadly, there are times when our kids are talking to us and our eyes are so focus on the Blackberry screen instead of on their sparkling innocent eyes :(. Isn’t it ironic that as mother we always say proudly that kids are our number one priority, yet on day to day basis, we always seem to multitask the most important people in our life with the not so important things, like reading time line on our Twitter or replying someone’s BBM :(
So yes, that’s just a friendly reminder *sort of a note to (MY) self* that to really listen to our children, we have to put aside whatever we’re doing at the moment, squat to their eye level and look them in the eyes. Listening is different than hearing. Hearing is something that just happens, but listening requires more effort. Listening demands concentration so we can process the words and comprehend what’s exactly they are saying and understand their feelings. Listening leads to learning and helps us connect with them. And if we want them to listen to us, we better listen to them first.
May we be a good listener to our children, the one who listens with her ears, eyes and heart :).
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Selamat Hari Raya Idul Adha untuk yang merayakan. Enjoy your time with your family :))
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daleeeemmmm bgt :D..my daughter also said like that if i dont see her when she say something..”ummi, liat aku dooonk..ummi mah gitu..” anak juga punya hati punya perasaan dan dia pun punya ingin untuk menjadi penuh arti..klo udah gt, jangan malu buat minta maaf padanya, dan jelaskan padanya kenapa tadi tidak melihatnya, agar dia pun mengerti, tidak merasa diabaikan..
Iyaa langsung seketika ngerasa bersalah banget yaa. Anakku yang umur 2 tahun juga udah bisa protes dan langsung ngerebut blackberry ku kalo ngobrol tapi nggak sambil natap matanya.
ah sedih bacanya, krn sering melakukan ini :( skg Langit udh bisa protes, jd kalo gw diajak ngobrol tp sambil megang bb, pasti dia akan terisk2 “talo dulu epon-nyaaaa….” hiks
Samaaa Lit..:D. Sedih juga pas lagi masa2 nyusuin dulu2 itu, kita lebih sering natap layar telfon daripada ngeliatin mata/mukanya yaa..huhuhu padahal sekarang udah segede gini..
ikut join ya moms.
nice article. soalnya aku ngalamin sendiri.
anakku 5 months, tp dia udh tau kl dicuekin gitu. kl aku lg breastfeeding dia sambil sibuk bbman, dia bisa nangis2 minta perhatiin. nangisnya ampe bercucuran air mata. hiks..kdg kita suka sibuk sendiri dgn dunia kita.
Ya ampun..umur 5 bulan aja udah berasa yaa? huhu jadi sedih dengernya. Jadi inget waktu itu kalo anakku udah nangis, bukannya buru-buru nyusuin malah cari BB atau laptop dulu biar bisa multitasking :(
Article yg bagus bgt! I’m a mamma wit 2beautiful daughters, 3.5 yo dan 1mos. Kadang kita lupa kl mrk jauh lbh berarti drpd apapun… Twitter timeline, fb status, bbm can wait…tp mrk trs tumbuh kepinterannya stiap detik. *menyesal mode on….
That’s true..ngerasa bersalah banget deh kalo mereka lagi ngomong trus gue yang tiba2 blank gitu, bingung mereka udah ngomong apa aja ya karena nggak terlalu dengerin :’(
Bener banget Han, jangankan anak, gw juga suka ngerasa dicuekin kalo lawan bicara lg gw ajak ngobrol tp sibuk pegang BB…hehehehe. Makanya kalo kita lagi ngumpul2 such as gath, gw memilih narok BB di tas, supaya ga tergoda utk pegang BB dan asik sendiri. Tapi trus kalo semuanya pada pegang BB dan asik sendiri, ya udah deh ikutan juga…hahahah.
Based on that, sekarang gw jadi jarang pegang BB kalo lagi deket Tiara. Nanny gw cerita, anak yg dia asuh sebelumnya, tangan ibunya lepas dari BB kalo lagi mandi ajah. Lagi makan pun pegang BB. Kesian anak2nya dicuekin kata nanny gw. I don’t want to be that kind of mother :(
TFS Hani :)
it.is.JLEB moment. TFS hanszky… jadi menyesal slalu pegang bb kalo lg nyusuin keyla :( but i determined myself not to BB-ing now…sudah cukup berhasil, harus diteruskan…hehe