Keep your Eyes and Ears on your Nanny

I am a working mommy with two boys, Rafa who is almost 7 years old and Raemir who is 1 year old.

It all started when I found out that I got pregnant at the end of 2008. At that time, Rafa was 5 years old. It was a comfort zone for me because I was happily working and not too worry too much about leaving Rafa at home because he’s a big boy and can take care of himself. He also had a Mbak who watched over him. Let’s just call her Mbak L.

Panic button was on when baby Raemir was born. I panicked everyday thinking who’s going to take care of my baby when my maternity leave was over. Of course, the option was to hire a nanny. And then the struggle to find the right nanny started. When I called all of the Yayasan Babysitter, everyone was still in ‘pulang kampung’ mode as it was right after Idul Fitri. But finally we managed to find Raemer his first nanny. Let’s call her Mbak R.

The panic button was still on when she arrived. I watched closely on how how she carried, fed, gave bath to Raemir and so many other things. I felt my prayer was answered. Mbak R is great. She could give Raemir bath in ‘tengkurap’ position. Even I couldn’t do it and she was only 19 years old.

Five  months have been passed until Mbak L who has been taking care of Rafa gave me a headache-induced report. Raemir fell down from the bed (luckily my bed was on the floor) twice and Mbak R never reported those incidents to me!

After that, I heard another scary story. Turned out, Mbak R was so mean to Rafa, she was so rude to Rafa, especially when Rafa entered the room when Raemir was sleeping.  Rafa is a little kid, so sometimes he entered the room while singing or talking loudly. Not too mention that the door also made a squeaky sound. There were many times when she crashed and locked the door right in Rafa’s face.

Sensing a dangerous behavior, I fired her immediately! But despite all of her bad behavior I still felt grateful that she took care of Raemir when I was out for work. She was good on with babies but not patient enough for my oldest son.

For other working mommies out there, please keep your eyes and ears on your nanny. I don’t mean to scare you or anything. But just be careful, sometimes what’s appeared in our eyes are not always the same when we leave the house. If you have older child, you can ask them casually like, “Ade sama mbak tadi ngapain aja?” Or simply, “Hari ini gimana Kaka? Maen apa aja?” . They usually will tell you all the detail. Like me, I can not trust the maid and nanny 100% because you know….it’s hard to find loyal ones these days. I miss si mbok who was so loyal to my parents.

Now, I have Mbak S who is more gentle. It’s been 3 months and there’s no bad reports so far. I’m praying with every beat of my heart this one will last long. Whenever I leave for work, I always said to her to be careful on Raemir and please be patient to Rafa, he’s a big boy but still a little kid in some ways, just tell him what to do in a gently and patiently.

Well, that’s my story mommies. How about you? Have you found the perfect one?I always believe that there’s still a loyal caring nanny out there, unfortunately most of us haven’t found them yet ;).

*Sent by Lila


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  1. Hanzky

    The struggle to find the right nanny ya La, kayanya dilema hampir semua working mom, ehh bahkan yang di rumah pun tetep sering ngalamin ini. Tapi elo kan ada 2 ya mbaknya, jadi mending lah..kalo satu ada yang nggak bener, satunya lagi bisa ngingetin atau ngasih tau elo. Mudah2an yang sekarang betah ya Leela….:)

  2. I’m among those who fortunate enough to have my perfect nanny. Si mbak ini bukan BS yang dari yayasan gitu, tapi mbak yg gw kursusin di yayasan BS. Dia udah ikut gw hampir 6 tahun, jadi mulai dari anak gw yg gede baru lahir (now 5yo), trus sekarang dia bantuin gw take care anak gw yg ke2 (10mos). Sabar, rajin, pinter, telaten, couldn’t ask for more deh. Si mbak tahun ini mau nikah, tadinya mau berhenti kerja, tapi setelah gw rayu2 dia mau tetep kerja selama diijinin suaminya (pfiuhh…, lega gw….).

  3. dulu waktu masih di indo, gw sih udah nyerah deh nyari nanny yang ok. pengalaman dari anak gw yang pertama, bolak balik gonta ganti, yang ada gw cape sendiri, setiap sebentar harus ngajarin dari awal lagi. akhirnya pas maternity leave gw abis waktu ngelahirin anak kedua, gw masukin aja dia ke daycare. thank god masih kebagian tempat. kalau sekarang, gw yang jadi maid merangkap nanny. hahaha.

  4. Banyak2 doa, dan banyak2 effort :) That’s my motto :). Paling aman siy, emang bisa ada mertua atau ibu yang bantu ngawasin (cukup pasang mata, ga usah turun tangan). Or anyone yg bisa dipercaya, ya ga. Atau kl ga, pasang CCTV aja deh dan dipantau (tp liat gituan deg2an juga buat gw). Kadang kl ada 2 mbak, mereka saling kompakan ga ada yg ngadu, susah juga ya. Atau kl saling musuhan, trus ngadu2 yang “belum tentu benar” susah juga (yg satu jadi mau keluar mlulu). Finding d right balance hehe. A friend of mine , anaknya 3 years old, kasian deh, nanny nya kasar,jadi anaknya sampe ototnya geser gitu (di lengan atas), krn pas mau diboboin tuh dikasarin/didorong.

  5. Masalah klasik ya bok, never ending problem dah kalo bcr mslh ART/ pengasuh :D
    Btw, gw teteub loh melototin Rafa. Ganteng amat sih, anak lo La! Raemir blm kliatan sih difoto itu, pst makin gede kiatan deh gantengnya. Duh yg mana aja deh bwt Langit *halah, ngawur*

  6. aduh Han’ n muti…capeeee nya nga ketulungan n ga abis2 yaaaa, cape ati ma otak…dilema emak2 kantoran ya gini…:(

    lucky u niens…smoga suatu saat g akan seberuntung elo yaaa ;)

    waaa kasian bgt anaknya tmn mu alice…jgn sampe deh *knocked on woods..dan bnr bgt…pembeti ma nanny saking akurnya jd saling nutupin..kl ga cucok ya slg jelek2in..ini gimana ya…:(soale dirmh ga ada yg awasin samsek

    semuanya akan indah pada waktunya…halah halah halah *tarik napas daleeeemmm

    hais Lita…Langit mah udah byk yg “minta” bukan…baiklah, kita liad jodohnya Langit cantik sapose yaw haha…*makin ngawur

  7. Lila,
    Gua udah ganti bs sampai 6x sebelum ketemu yg terakhir ^_^
    Sama yg terakhir ini akhirnya bertahan sampai skrg (2 th)
    Semoga dia betah dan balik lagi abis lebaran :P
    Lucky me, my mother always come to my house.
    Jadi ga bs macem2 deh mbak + bs-nya

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